Monday, December 29, 2025

领队导游 Tour leader or guide

领队导游
Tour leader/guide 

喜欢旅游,喜爱旅行的我
曾经想过要去当导游。
就用这几年参加的旅行团,稍微观察导游与领队,就来做个NLP换位思考,从中看看能否得到些些灵感和经验吧。。

若被派到一个地方,国家。。
导游要先熟天使,地理,人和。
要会观察当地气象,熟悉当地景点环境餐厅,熟巧当地语言,适应能力要强,控制情绪,淡定处事,和谐平稳,快速消化掉发火,生气的脾气,常常展颜笑容对客户,常给对方互相尊敬的眼神,常以客户的事,就是自己的事,把每一件棘手的问题解决,让客户开心和满意。

可以与必须有特定的忍受孤独感,接见到的顾客大都是情侣或一家庭成员的,看见顾客合群的那么的嘻哈欢乐,自己寂静孤身一人,特别需要面对这强烈的相对反应,而取得一个平衡;和客户呼哈聊成一片,嘻哈的称兄道弟,回到旅店小房,独自一人,要能会化掉这些对比与落差。。

从我的观察,领队导游们都对每一位客户相当的尽责和感恩,服务态度是真的上等上,真诚感谢客户给于自己一个机会服务众客户们,钱是要赚,但要赚得合情合理,于德,真诚服人,这让我想起在E+H时老板常说:serve before earn! 赚钱之前,要付出真诚的服务!

领队导游任务真的不简单,不是参与吃吃喝喝玩玩乐乐逛逛,要尽职尽责的确保客户有一个美好的时光,若能迎接到再次的回头客,那就代表你的旅行配套和你的服务是一流的👍!

Tour Leader/Guide

As someone who loves traveling, I've once considered becoming a tour guide.

Based on my observations of tour guides and leaders during the tours I've participated in over the years, I'll try to use NLP empathy to put myself in their shoes and see if I can gain some inspiration or experience.

If assigned to a place, a country...

A tour guide must first be familiar with the local climate, geography, and people.

They need to be able to observe the local weather, know the local attractions, environment, and restaurants, be fluent in the local language, have strong adaptability, control their emotions, remain calm and composed, maintain harmony and stability, quickly resolve anger and frustration, always greet clients with a smile, consistently show mutual respect, and treat the client's problems as their own, resolving every difficult issue to ensure the client's happiness and satisfaction.

It requires a certain tolerance for solitude. Most of the customers are couples or families. Seeing them so outgoing and joyful while you're alone and quiet requires a strong ability to balance this contrast. You have to be able to chat and laugh with your clients, becoming close friends, and then return to your hotel room alone, needing to be able to melt away the contrast and disparity.

From my observation, the tour leaders and guides are extremely responsible and grateful to each client. Their service attitude is truly top-notch. They sincerely thank clients for giving them the opportunity to serve them. Earning money is important, but it must be done ethically and sincerely. This reminds me of what my ex boss at E+H often said: "Serve before earning!" Before making money, provide genuine service!

The task of a tour leader or guide is truly not simple. It's not just about eating, drinking, makan angin and having fun. It's about ensuring clients have a wonderful time. If you can attract repeat customers, it means your travel packages and service are first-class! 👍

Saturday, December 27, 2025

敢于梦想,创造可能!

有梦想,才能伟大!

之前在世界之窗看到山寨版的铁塔
多年以后,自己也在正版的巴黎埃菲尔铁塔下留影。。

曾几何时,自己也曾想过到美国,在自由女神前留影,现在,就于在韩国首尔街头的这副翻版自由女神前留影,盼总会有一天,我会站在美国正版的自由女神前留影,为梦想努力前进,梦想不要被冷冻,排除万难,去创造可能!

敢于梦想,把目标视觉化,专注,行动,创造可能!

Greatness comes from dreams!

I once saw a replica of the Eiffel Tower at Window of the World.

Years later, I took a photo in front of the real Eiffel Tower in Paris. France. 

Sometimes I dreamed of going to America and taking a photo in front of the Statue of Liberty. Now, I'm taking a photo in front of this replica of the Statue of Liberty in Seoul, South Korea. 

I hope that one day I will stand in front of the real Statue of Liberty in America. 

Strive for your dreams, don't let them freeze, overcome all obstacles, and create possibilities!

Dare to dream, target visualize, focus, act, and create possibilities!

Bryan Liu, 南韩游的韩国导游

Bryan 刘,是这次我们南韩游记的韩国,会讲华语的导游,他为人平易近人,可爱可亲,是首尔江南人,他的广阔认知,深深的值得我学习。。

他说一个国家的进步繁荣,不等于人民的生活品质,韩国可能很进步,但学生的教育费是很昂贵的,父母亲为了孩子们的教育费和生活费,都让不少父母亲为之而烦恼,更别说有多余钱出国旅游,透透气。。不像大马,国家处于发展中,但国民可出国旅游,看世界,在生活中加了些优质的质量。。

他的哥哥姐姐都是高才生,哥哥在美国当医生,但他哥哥常吐槽说:我常看的是病人,死人,时常让心情很低落;Bryan却说常见到的是出国旅游的开心人,快乐人,每天都展颜欢笑的和顾客开心的互动,让人多么的快乐,是导游这行业给他的热忱,据续了20多年还不言苦与累!

交换了WhatsApp, 我多了一个可谈的外国人,互相学习,互相扶持,多多勉励,人生路,顺利与好走许多。。😄

Bryan Liu, our South Korean tour guide for this trip, speaks Mandarin. He's approachable, kind, and friendly. A native of Gangnam, Seoul, his broad knowledge is something I deeply admire and want to learn from.

He said that a country's progress and prosperity don't necessarily equate to a high quality of life for its people. South Korea may be very advanced, but education costs are exorbitant. Many parents struggle with their children's education and living expenses, let alone have extra money for overseas travel. Unlike Malaysia, where the country is developing, but its citizens can travel abroad and see the world, adding a higher quality to their lives.

His older siblings are both high achievers. His brother is a doctor in the US, but he often complains, "I often see patients and even dead people, which often makes me feel down." Bryan, however, says he often sees happy, joyful people traveling abroad. He interacts with customers with a cheerful smile every day, bringing them immense joy. It's this passion for tour guiding that has sustained him for over 20 years without complaint!

 We exchanged WhatsApp contacts, and now I have another foreigner to talk to. We learn from each other, support each other, and encourage one another. Life's journey will be much smoother and easier this way. 😄

Thursday, December 18, 2025

2025年度汉字:税,我得奖了。。

好好运,猜中年度汉字:税
谢谢举办当局,谢谢年度汉字。。
我将善用此款项,买多些好书来看
🙏🙏🙏

Good Good luck! I guessed the Chinese character of the year correctly: Tax.

Thank you to the organizers, thank you for the Chinese character of the year.

I will use this money wisely to buy more good books to read.

🙏🙏🙏

Monday, December 15, 2025

my science teacher mr Ng HT

我中学教科学课的黄老师

黄老师是一位上课时很认真,很有责任感,常用最简单,最容易懂的方式,把复杂的科学知识,再注入有趣的元素,让我们每位同学都了解,而且把这些知识若烙印般的存在于我们的脑海中。

其中一个黄老师仿佛若燃烧着的蜡烛,燃烧自己,照亮别人的,那就是他要展示random movement, 他点燃了一根香烟,吸了一大口,再将烟吹入特制的显微镜的装置中,就轮流让我们每位同学上前来观察,看看random movement 到底是怎样的,老师的牺牲,真是敬佩 🙏🙏🙏。。

但,中学时期某一个中午,上黄老师的科学课,骨子里有些傲气的我和同学开玩笑,嘻嘻哈哈的,被黄老师看在眼里,他于明喻来训导我,说道:

‘’。。脑子要时常像空或半杯水的杯子,这样才能好好的,可再装入水,那才能很好的吸收知识,要时时刻刻保持谦卑的心,虚心的学习;而不是有了小小成就,就扮成个有高傲脑子的人,仿佛若装着满满水的杯子,水装都装不进去,会溢漏出来,就是高傲性格的将再也无法有效的吸收外来的知识,日复一日,年过一年,终将荒废学业,到头来,一事无成,蹉跎岁月。。‘’

哇!真的被老师一语惊醒梦中人,仿佛若把一桶冷冷的冰水往我头上淋,就以上这场景,使我常常想起,让我永远铭记于心头,时常要虚心学,谦卑的学,别扮高傲。。
这画面场景,永远在❤中,永远永远!

My science teacher Mr Ng HT

My secondary school science teacher, Mr. Ng, was a very dedicated and responsible teacher. He used the simplest and most understandable methods to explain complex scientific knowledge, infusing it with interesting elements so that every student could grasp it and imprint this knowledge in our minds.

One of Mr. Ng's act was like a burning candle, sacrificing himself to illuminate others. When demonstrating random movement, he would light up a cigarette, take a deep drag, and blow the smoke into a specially designed microscope. He would then take turns having each student come up to observe what random movement looked like. His sacrifice was truly admirable 🙏🙏🙏.

However, one noon during Mr. Ng's science class in school, I, with my inherently arrogant nature, joked and laughed with my classmates. Mr. Ng noticed this and, with a subtle reprimand, said to me:

".. The mind should often be like an empty or half-full glass, so that it can be properly filled with water, in other words, to absorb knowledge. One must always maintain a humble heart and learn with an open mind; rather than becoming arrogant after achieving a little success. Like a glass full of water that overflows, an arrogant personality will prevent the effective absorption of external knowledge. Day after day, year after year, one will waste their studies, ultimately achieving nothing and squandering their youth.

Wow! The teacher's words truly awakened me from a dream, as it's like a bucket of cold water had been poured over my head. This scene will often remind me, and I will forever remember it. Always learn humbly and without arrogance.

This scene will forever remain in my ❤️, forever and ever!

Sunday, December 14, 2025

因缘

‘’世間的得失皆有前因,
人生的苦乐都有所缘‘’

捉得紧,失时,伤得重
               苦时,失意浓

若知皆因缘果报,
手放得开,心放得下
一切海阔天空,
心情与思索若轻舟已过万重山!

从大脑看有效沟通 - 洪兰教授

从大脑看有效沟通
<Effective Communication from the Brain's Perspective>

大脑可以改变,所以教育才有用。
神经细胞可再生。
可用physio复建,让脑受伤者恢复

<沒有輸在起跑點上這句話>
人生是馬拉松,要跑到終點才是贏家 成功的人不是贏在起點,而是赢在 轉折點.

老年人,智力退化者,需要尝试新的学习,要努力的学,还要学会。
这才能增加海馬迴新增细胞的嘉命,一旦存 活下來後,它們會分化成真正的神經元,有 突觸,也能產生運動電位, 它們就融入原 有的成年大腦結構和功能迴路中,跟其他 神經元一樣。

和老年人,失智症患者,脑退化者沟通时,别让他感觉有挫折感,要语气平和顺跟他们沟通,要多多宽容,别常考他们,他们会怨烦和反感,产生暴怒。。

<每一個人都是過去經驗的總和>
你過去的經驗 造成現在的你

生命只有走過才能了解. 
但是必須向前看才活的下去。

<溝通的問題 speaker vs listener> 
1.在不同的層次,牛頭不對馬嘴, 
2.語言表達不精準,措詞不當, 
3.已有成見,聽不進去 
4.中文同音字多,容易誤會 
5.男女生對同一句話解讀不同

<can practice one trial learning>

A GOOD PARENT SHOULD ALWAY'S TRY To SEE THINGS FROM THE CHILD'S POINT OF VIEW ..

一個好的溝通不是命令人去做,
而是讓 人以為是他自己要做.

<不可以有先入為主的偏見(bias)>
如果以強凌弱,以大欺小, 那不是溝通, 是霸凌。

<有效的溝通技巧可以被訓練>
同理心(懂得從别人觀點來看事情), 寬廣的胸襟(成事不必在我), 
良好的情緒挂制(小不忍亂大課)
不得罪人的說話技巧(提油枝火) 
這些是習慣,必須從小教

總結:
真正的溝通
主動聆聽, 
設身處地協商後, 
得到雙贏的共識!

Saturday, December 13, 2025

认真和用心的义工


那天午饭时间到佛光山东禅寺帮忙
分配物资,师姐安排我向一位
年轻菩萨义工人,学习如何把物资做安排:饼干,面包,杯面,食水,饮料,衣物,毛巾,让我真正感受到做义工付出的一份认真,起初我以为只要把所有物资放进环保袋就可以了,但义工们把一份一份的物资,很认真,很用心的顺着序,顺重到轻的排进环保袋,排到整整齐齐,我真的可以感受到,当灾民拿到环保袋,打开看到那么的整齐,让他们感觉到被尊重,被重视,有我们佛光人义工们与灾民同在,一起共同度过难关,虽天灾无情,但我们人间有爱,一方有难,八方支援,给人们信心,给人们希望,给人们欢喜,给人们方便。。

祝你离苦的安,relief from suffering

May reading the following words bring you peace and relief from suffering, and help you to rebuild your life...

This is not about religion, it's about the method relief from suffering..

Buddhist teachings on dealing with the death of a loved one focus on understanding impermanence (Anicca) and letting go of attachment to alleviate suffering. 

Core Principles...

Impermanence (Anicca): 

A foundational truth in Buddhism is that all things, including life, relationships, and emotions, are in a constant state of flux and nothing lasts forever. Death is an inevitable part of the cycle of birth, aging, and death that all beings experience.

Suffering (Dukkha) and Attachment: 

Grief and prolonged sorrow (suffering) stem not just from the loss itself, which is a natural painful feeling, but from our attachment to the person and the wish for reality to be otherwise. The emotional pain is a natural response, but clinging to the desire for the person to still be alive creates lasting suffering.

Non-Self (Anatta): 

The teaching of non-self highlights that there is no permanent, unchanging soul or spirit. The consciousness is reborn into a new form based on karma, but it is not the exact same "self" that the loved ones miss. Speculating on the afterlife or a visiting spirit is generally not considered helpful for the deceased or the living, as the focus should be on practice and present actions. 

Practices for Letting Go

The Buddha did not seek to eliminate the pain of loss, but to provide a path to peace through understanding and acceptance. The story of Kisa Gotami illustrates this well, where the Buddha asked her to find a mustard seed from a household where no one had died; her inability to do so showed her the universality of mortality. 

Acknowledge and Accept Grief:

It is acceptable to grieve. The pain of separation is a natural part of the human experience. The key is to allow the sadness to be present without resisting it or letting it consume you for an extended period.
Contemplate Mortality: Reflecting on the reality of death and separation is a fundamental practice (similar to memento mori) that can help one appreciate the present moment and cherish loved ones while they are alive.

Focus on Skillful Action:

Engaging in good and wholesome actions and cultivating a clear and calm state of mind are considered beneficial for both the living and the deceased person's next life.
Dedicate Merit: Family and friends can perform good deeds, offer prayers, and dedicate the merit of these actions to the welfare of the departed.

Meditation: Meditation on the breath and the transient nature of thoughts and feelings can help the mind become calm and let go of agitation and anxiety related to the loss. 

Ultimately, the Buddhist teaching of letting go is about acknowledging the truth of impermanence and using that wisdom to cultivate compassion, find inner peace, and live a meaningful life in the present, rather than being mired in conflict with the reality of loss.

Wednesday, December 10, 2025

玩得适可而止,别上瘾

以前沉迷于电子游戏,当上瘾时,
放学就骑脚车,就往电子游戏店去。很多时候,都需劳动外公拿着滕鞭来到电子游戏店,鞭着我,来赶我回家,曾一次遇到警察叔叔,他坐在游戏机前,把手铐拍在游戏机上,我们看到都lari kuat kuat, 以超音速的飞跑蹦跳的逃离现场,好险啊。。

现在就不同了,电子游戏店都转变成网吧或在家上网了,顾客都玩上网游戏,唆了卡,直接付款,就可online 玩,网后方的对方是谁,没人懂,没得管,很多诈骗就在这里发生,一步一步的掏空debit 卡的存款,若是信用卡,那就更惨。。

电子游戏如何的好玩,都是设计师的点子,顾客就是在设计师创造的虚拟世界中,顾客感觉得到放松,减压,提高了顾客身体的多巴胺,让顾客很happy, 忘我尽情的一步一步若陷入泥潭,不能自拔。。

在此劝劝电子游戏喜爱者,玩着玩着,适可而止,别沉迷到忘食不眠,荒废学业,要会辨别真假,虚拟和真实,那些才是对你真正有意义的事。。

I used to be addicted to video games. When I was hooked, I'd ride my bike straight to the arcade after school. Often, my grandfather would have to come with a rattan cane to chase me home. Once, we even encountered a policeman. He sat in front of a game machine, slapping his handcuffs on it. We all screamed and ran away at supersonic speed! What a close call!

Now it's different. Arcades have transformed into internet cafes or home internet. Customers play online games, pay with a card, and play online. Nobody knows who's the owner behind, nobody cares. Many scams happen here, gradually emptying debit card balances. If it's a credit card, it's even worse.

The fun of video games all comes from the designers' ideas. Customers feel relaxed and relieved in the virtual world created by these designers. It increases dopamine levels, making them happy and completely absorbed, sometimes to the point of being unable to extricate themselves.

Therefore, I advise video game enthusiasts to play in moderation. Don't become so addicted that you neglect your meals and studies. Learn to distinguish between reality and fiction; virtual and real are what truly matter to you.

Monday, December 8, 2025

忙碌 ○ 空闲

歇后语:
姜太公钓鱼——愿者上钩。

忙碌的人,忙着为生活打拼
空闲的人,轻松的在钓钓鱼

在人间生活,
是忙碌的人做对了,
还是我们该学学空闲的人,
偷偷闲,透透气?

曼德拉传奇 - 通往自由之路并非坦途 - 观后感

曼德拉传奇 - 通往自由之路并非坦途 - 观后感

“通往自由之路从来都不是坦途,我们中的许多人必须一次又一次地穿越死亡的阴影,才能最终抵达我们渴望的山巅。”

1910年,黑人被剥夺了拥有土地的权利。 南非近90%的土地被划为白人专属区

1918年7月18日 曼德拉出生

1962年8月 曼德拉被捕,被控煽动骚乱和非法离境

1962年11月 被判处5年监禁

无论前路多么狭窄,无论惩罚多么沉重,我都是自己命运的主宰,我都是自己灵魂的船长

1964年6月 被判处终身监禁

1982年4月 从罗本岛监狱转移至波尔斯穆尔监狱

1990年2月11日 获释

1993年12月 曼德拉与德克勒克共同获得诺贝尔和平奖

1994年4月24日 在南非历史上首次非种族民主选举中当选总统

从一场持续时间过长的非同寻常的人类灾难中,必将诞生一个全人类都应享有的社会 将会感到骄傲……永远,永远,永远,这片美丽的土地绝不会再次遭受一方对另一方的压迫。

1999年卸任

2013年7月18日在医院庆祝95岁生日

2013年12月5日曼德拉逝世

“我们失去了一位最具影响力、最勇敢、最善良的人,他是我们此生所能遇到的最伟大的人之一。他不再属于我们,他属于历史。”——美国前总统巴拉克·奥巴马

Nelson Mandela..No easy walk to Freedom.. Book Review 

" There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintops of our desires."

1910 Blacks were no longer allowed to own land. Almost 90% of South Africa was designated for whites only

18.07.1918 born in..
08.1962 Mandela captured, charged with incitement to riot and leaving the country illegally 
11. 1962 sentenced to 5 years in prison 

It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll I am the master of my fate I am the captain of my soul

06. 1964 sentenced to life imprisonment 
04. 1982 transferred from Robben island to Pollsmoor Prison
11.02.1990 released from prison 
12. 1993 Mandela n de Klerk jointly awarded the Nobel Peace Prize 
24.04.1994 elected president in the first nonracial democratic election in South Africa history 

out of the experience of an extraordinary human disaster that lasted too long, must be born a soci- city of which all humanity will be proud... Never; never and never again shall it be that this beautiful land will again experience the oppression of one by. the other.

1999 retires from office 
18.07.2013 celebrates 95 birthday in hospital 
05.12.2013 Mandela dies

"we have lost one of the most influential, courageous and profoundly good human beings that any of us will share time with on this Earth He no longer belongs to us-he belongs to the ages." -- Barack Obama, former president of US

小狗🐕钱钱 - 读后感

<小狗钱钱> 读后感

写下你的清晰可见的目标
visualise 你的目标
制作目标实现的扑满,存钱,
由小钱储蓄开始
知道什么,能做什么,拥有什么就迈向成功的一步。。就是自信。

别总是专注不知道,不能做,
没有的东西。
集中精力做一件事
遇到困难,问题,也要实施的做
在最困难时,做出最漂亮的成绩。
写成功日记,十分钟做未来最重要的事。。
如何还债。。

focus 在积极的目标上,
就不会畏惧了

金鹅如何生金蛋?

72公式

50:40:10 = 养鹅:
短期目标:零用钱

不要为已失去的东西悲叹,而要对你曾经拥有它而心存感激。

小狗🐕钱钱💰- Book Review

Write down your clear and visible goals.
Visualize your goals.
Create a piggy bank to achieve your goals and save money.
Start with small savings.
Knowing what you can do, what you have, and what you possess are all steps towards success. That's confidence.

Don't always focus on what you don't know, can't do, or don't have.
Concentrate on doing one thing.
Even when you encounter difficulties and problems, take action.
Achieve your best results in the most difficult times.

Keep a success journal and spend ten minutes doing the most important thing for your future.

How to pay off debts.

Focus on positive goals, and you will have no fear.

How does a golden goose lay golden eggs?

The 72 Formula

50:40:10 = Goose farming: Short-term goals: Expenses 

Don't grieve for what you've lost, but be grateful for what you once had.

Saturday, November 29, 2025

天灾无情,人间有爱❤

每一份小小的爱,微微的关怀,
少少绵力的付出,凝聚成能帮助
灾民度过难关的力量,天灾无情,人间有爱,愿灾消,灾民恢复美好生活!

Every little act of love, every bit of care, every small contribution, together can help flooding victims overcome their difficulties. Natural disasters are merciless, but humanity is full of love. May the flooding subside and the victims return to a better life!

Friday, November 28, 2025

东禅寺菩萨义工们 - 给的力量

我国北方和合艾面临水灾
一方有难,八方支援
佛光山东禅寺菩萨义工们
身体力行的把饼干,面包,
杯面,毛巾,衣物,食水
装成一袋一袋,于准备送往
灾区。我也出少少绵力,于
吃午饭些许时间,帮忙装物资
虽然有些腰疾,但得到一身出汗
若做了一场运动。。🙏

Northern our country and Hat Yai are facing flooding. When disaster strikes, help comes from all sides. Volunteers from Fo Guang Shan Dong Chan Temple are diligently packing biscuits, bread, instant noodles, towels, clothing, and drinking water into bags, preparing to send them to the flooding area. I contributed a little, helping to pack supplies during my lunch break. Although I have a bit of a back ache, I got a good sweat—like I'd had a workout.. 🙏

Sunday, November 23, 2025

happy Birthday to me..

快乐过生日
在有飘雪的云顶
与爱人,❤在美丽浪漫每一时刻

在此,谢谢大家你我他的祝福。。
祝你们
健康满满多多
快乐长长久久
幸福天长地久

Happy birthday to me!

On a snowy mountaintop Genting,

with my loved one, ❤ in every beautiful and romantic moment.

Thank you all for your blessings.

Wishing you
abundant health,
lasting happiness, and everlasting bliss.

与同事庆祝生日

我的生日,提早庆祝 😁
early celebration of my Bday😄

这次特别一点,到麻麻挡庆祝
注重的是一班好同事聚在一起,
来个欢乐的时光,哈哈没烦恼!

This time it's a little special, we're celebrating at Mamak restaurant!
The focus is on getting together with a group of good colleagues,
and having a fun time, haha, happy goes lucky, happy no worries!
三五成群,
小小聚餐,
食物佳肴是其次,
同事满满的诚意还是最感动的,
生日许了个愿藏心底,
❤想的都离不开健康喜乐万事圆
也愿同事们出入平安,常喜常乐。

In small groups, a small meal is enjoyed. The food is secondary; it's the colleagues' heartfelt sincerity that touches us most. A birthday wish is made, kept deep in my heart, ❤ wishing for health, joy, and all things going well. I also wish my colleagues safe travels and constant happiness.

Monday, November 17, 2025

我的小狗 - Happy

<我的小狗🐕 - Happy >

缘份,是可遇不可求的,当一切的因缘聚足时,彼此就会相聚,当一切的因缘散了,彼此就得面对离别。。

以下是出自真心的真实写实,作者是我的外甥和他的女朋友,对一只缘来遇见的可爱小狗 - 名叫Happy, 这短暂但很珍贵的一段很感动的故事。。

。。。
我们家一直有把吃不完的饭菜留给流浪狗的习惯,但老实说,我们都还是有点怕与流浪狗只靠得太近。

某一天,我像往常一样在厨房窗口轻轻地“啾啾啾”呼唤时,一只从未见过的小狗摇着尾巴跑了过来。它大概六个月大,不足一岁,瘦瘦小小,却充满着期待。我们随手把食物丢给它,它便开心地吃了起来。

从那天起,每一个下午,它都会准时报到。我们叫它的时候会来,不叫它时,它也会到后面轻轻吠几声,像是在说:“我来了,可以吃饭了吗?”我把这件事告诉了我的女朋友,因为她很喜欢动物。她来我家的第一件事,就是轻声呼唤那只小狗,看它会不会害怕人类。

起初,小狗的确有些戒备,但可能因为我们一直喂它,它很快就愿意靠近了。它第一次让人抚摸,就是让我的女朋友摸的。在她的鼓励下,我也试着伸手摸摸它。那一刻我才发现,狗狗原来这么的温柔、这么的可爱,也没我想象中可怕。我们很快和它建立起互相的信任感。我的女朋友就给它取了个名字叫——Happy。

刚开始我们不让它进 carpark 睡觉,可是后来发现它常常被附近的流浪狗欺负,我们心疼,就开始让它进来躲避。有时候它要上厕所,会在门口轻轻汪汪两声,像个懂事的小孩。它很乖,只在我家里失误过一次,其他时间都会自己出去解决。

就这样,日复一日,从 2024 年 5 月相遇,到 2025 年 6 月,它陪伴了我们大约一年零一个月。

今年四月份,我们发现它开始食欲不振,也没像以前那么的活泼了,便带它去看兽医。这是它第一次坐车,它乖得不得了,没有吵闹,只是需要有人坐在后座陪着它。

检查结果让我们心碎——它确诊了 tick fever。那段时间我们每天都担心它会不会撑不住,但它很勇敢,也很配合吃药,最后很感恩的,它竟然挺了过来。

其实我们之前做过很多关于狗瘟和 kutu 病的功课,有些了解狗瘟的情况,但因为当时我们还在念书,没有稳定收入,迟迟没能带它接种疫苗。等我们中学毕业,开始打工后,本打算等它完全康复,就带它去打疫苗的。。

然而某天晚上,我们发现它在一直挖嘴巴,以为只是卡着骨头,没多想。直到下个星期,我们见它又开始身体很虚弱,下巴不停的抽动,我心里,觉得很不对劲了,就再次带它去兽医做检查。

结果是我们最害怕听到的——
Happy 得了狗瘟。

一开始,它还能正常吃喝,只是后来越来越吃力。到后期嘴巴抽动得厉害,几乎张不开嘴,走路也走得不稳。我担心家人照顾不来,女朋友便把它接回自己家细心照料。到了她那边的头两天,它还能慢慢走动,但已经不能排便了。之后的每一天,Happy 的情况都在恶化。它的下半身渐渐瘫软,只能躺着,还会尿在身上,于是女朋友给它穿了尿片。

她每天用针筒喂它肉泥、喂药,早晚帮它吊水,防止脱水。最后的时期,因为它常呕吐也吃不下,她甚至在上班时利用短短一小时的休息时间赶回家喂它。Happy 一直很乖,没有吵闹,只是嘴巴紧闭,让我们为它喂食变得越来越困难。

最让我们心碎的是,它偶尔会挣扎着想站起来,可是它的身体已经不再听使唤,每次都重重倒下。我们带它回兽医复诊,医生告诉我们:狗瘟的存活率极低,十只狗中,可能只有一只撑得过去,而且那唯一能活下来的,情况会变得越来越稳定、越来越好。但 Happy 的状况却每天都在下滑。医生劝我们要做好心理准备。

医生建议我们尝试针灸辅助治疗,我们立刻带它去,甚至还约好了下一次治疗的日期。那时 Happy 身上已经开始出现褥疮,我们用尿垫帮它垫着,一边烦恼还能怎样让它更舒服一些。

可是 Happy 没能撑到下一次的针灸。

今年6 月 23 日,我女朋友下班回到家时,发现 Happy 已经静静地离开了,去了汪星当小天使。。

隔天刚好是我的休日,我就连夜的赶回来。当我摸到它渐渐僵硬的小小身躯,眼泪根本止不住。它是我第一只养的狗,我们那么的努力、那么的用心地照顾它,却没能救回它。我们一直在盼望,祈求,相信奇迹会出现。。。

女朋友在店里收到她母亲的消息时,也忍不住痛哭。她哭了好久,才鼓起勇气回家面对 Happy。一看到它,她的泪水又如决堤般落下,过去一年所有的美好且珍贵的回忆,在瞬间不断的涌现。

我们最后轻轻摸着 Happy 的头,摸着它冰凉的小爪子,替它拍下最后一张照片,然后把它带回我家安葬。我们放了往生纸,女朋友的同事还送来了往生花。我们只希望,小小的 Happy 能在汪星里永远的快乐。

短短的一年,Happy 带给了我的生活太多的改变。因为Happy ,我多了许多欢乐,让感觉些许似无聊的日子,充满和填满多多的活力和美好的感动,我再也不再害怕小动物。我第一次那么深刻地学会了什么叫<责任>。

‘’。。对不起,没有照顾好你,我的小 Happy。。‘’

我和女朋友决定,以后我们还会一起养小动物。我们永远不会忘记我们的第一只小狗——Happy。未来,我们会养一只长得和它很像的小狗,让它像是带着 Happy,继续走完 Happy 没来得及走完的路,和再养一只小黑狗陪伴着它。

‘’。。Happy,谢谢你来过我们的生命里。。‘’ 🙏


<My Little Dog 🐕 - Happy>

Fate is something you can't force. When all the conditions are right, we meet; when they're gone, we must part.

The following is a heartfelt, true story told by my nephew and his girlfriend about a lovely little dog they met by chance—named Happy. This short but precious and touching story...

...
Our family has always had the habit of leaving leftover food for stray dogs, but honestly, we're still a little afraid of getting too close to them.

One day, as usual, I gently called out from the kitchen window, and a little dog I'd never seen before came wagging its tail. It was about six months old, less than a year old, thin and small, but full of anticipation. We casually tossed it some food, and it happily ate it.

From that day on, every afternoon, it would come punctually.  It comes when we call it, and even when we don't, it'll come to the back and bark softly a few times, as if saying, "I'm here, can I eat now?" I told my girlfriend about this because she loves animals. The first thing she did when she came to my house was to gently call the puppy to see if it was afraid of humans.

At first, the puppy was indeed a little wary, but perhaps because we kept feeding it, it quickly became willing to come closer. The first time it was petted was by my girlfriend. With her encouragement, I also tried reaching out to pet it. At that moment, I realized that dogs are so gentle, so cute, and not as scary as I had imagined. We quickly built a sense of trust with it. My girlfriend named it Happy.

At first, we didn't let it sleep in the carpark, but later we found that it was often bullied by the stray dogs in the neighborhood, and we felt sorry for it, so we started letting it come in to hide. Sometimes when it needs to go to the bathroom, it will bark softly twice at the door, like a well-behaved child. It's very well-behaved; it only made a mistake once in my house, and the rest of the time it would go out to relieve itself on its own.

 And so, day after day, from our first meeting in May 2024 to June 2025, it accompanied us for about a year and a month.

This April, we noticed it had lost its appetite and wasn't as lively as before, so we took it to the vet. It was its first time in a car, and it was incredibly well-behaved, not fussy at all, just needing someone to sit in the back seat with it.

The test results were heartbreaking—it was diagnosed with tick fever. During that time, we worried every day whether it would survive, but it was brave and cooperated well with taking its medication. Thankfully, it pulled through.

Actually, we had done a lot of research on canine distemper and kutu disease beforehand, and knew a bit about canine distemper, but because we were still in school at the time and didn't have a stable income, we couldn't get it vaccinated. After we graduated from high school and started working, we planned to take it for vaccination once it was fully recovered.

However, one night, we noticed it was constantly digging at its mouth. We thought it was just a bone stuck in its throat and didn't think much of it.  The following week, we noticed it was very weak again, its jaw twitching constantly. I felt something was wrong and took it to the vet again.

The result was the one we dreaded most—Happy had canine distemper.

At first, it could eat and drink normally, but it became increasingly difficult. Later, its mouth twitched so badly it could barely open its mouth, and it walked unsteadily. Worried that my family couldn't handle it, my girlfriend took it home and cared for it meticulously. For the first two days at her place, it could still walk slowly, but it couldn't defecate. Every day after that, Happy's condition worsened. Its lower body gradually became limp, and it could only lie down, urinating on itself, so my girlfriend put diapers on it.

She fed it meat puree and medication daily with a syringe, and gave it IV fluids morning and night to prevent dehydration. In the final stages, because it frequently vomited and couldn't eat, she even used her short one-hour break at work to rush home to feed it.  Happy had always been well-behaved, never making a fuss, but its mouth was always tightly shut, making it increasingly difficult for us to feed it.

What broke our hearts most was that it would occasionally struggle to stand up, but its body wouldn't obey, and it would collapse heavily each time. We took it back to the vet for a checkup, and the doctor told us that the survival rate for canine distemper is extremely low; out of ten dogs, perhaps only one will survive, and even then, the one that survives will become increasingly stable and better. But Happy's condition was deteriorating every day. The doctor advised us to prepare ourselves.

The doctor suggested we try acupuncture as an adjunct treatment, and we took it immediately, even scheduling the next appointment. By then, Happy had started to develop bedsores, and we used pee pads to support it, all the while worrying about how else to make it more comfortable.

But Happy didn't make it to the next acupuncture session.

On June 23rd of this year, when my girlfriend came home from get off work, she found that Happy had quietly passed away, gone to dog heaven to become a little angel.

 The next day happened to be my day off, so I rushed back that very night. When I touched its small, gradually stiffening body, I couldn't stop crying. It was my first dog, and we had tried so hard, cared for it so attentively, yet we couldn't save it. We kept hoping, praying, believing in a miracle...

When my girlfriend received the news from her mother at the shop, she couldn't help but cry too. She cried for a long time before mustering the courage to go home and face Happy. As soon as she saw it, her tears flowed like a burst dam, all the beautiful and precious memories of the past year flooding back in an instant.

We gently stroked Happy's head, touched its cold little paws, took one last picture of it, and then took it home for burial. We placed funeral paper money, and my girlfriend's colleague even brought flowers. We only hoped that little Happy could be happy forever in dog heaven.

In just one short year, Happy brought so many changes to my life.  Because of Happy, I've experienced so much joy. My days, which once felt somewhat dull, are now filled with vitality and wonderful emotions. I'm no longer afraid of animals. For the first time, I've truly learned the meaning of responsibility.

'I'm sorry, I didn't take good care of you, my little Happy.'

My girlfriend and I have decided that we will continue to raise pets together in the future. We will never forget our first puppy—Happy. In the future, we will raise a puppy that looks a lot like it, so that it can continue Happy's unfinished journey, and we will also raise another little black dog to accompany it.

'Happy, thank you for coming into our lives.' 🙏

Xuan

Sunday, November 16, 2025

养生不用花多多钱💰Maintaining good health doesn't have to cost a fortune 💰

养生不用花多多钱💰
Maintaining good health doesn't have to cost a fortune 💰

晒15分钟早上不过十点的太阳🌞
常接近大自然
呼吸新鲜空气
保持稳定情绪
保持开朗的心情
保持正能量,正方向
进食7分饱
保持有事情忙,忙中带乐,
偷闲,不过分的忙
多动,多运动,多步走,
少常时间坐着
有寄托,有信仰
保持微笑😊,与人人维持好关系
付出,布施
不计较得失。。
放下
断舍离

Maintaining good health doesn't have to cost a fortune 💰

Sunbathe for 15 minutes before 10 AM 🌞
Spend time in nature
Breathe fresh air
Maintain emotional stability
Maintain a cheerful mood
Maintain positive energy and a positive direction
Eat until you're 70% full
Keep yourself busy, find joy in your busyness
Take moments of leisure, but don't be overly busy
Be more active, more exercise, walk more, and sit less for long periods of time.
Have something to rely on, have faith
Keep smiling 😊, maintain good relationships with everyone
Give and practice generosity
Don't be calculating about gains and losses.
Let go
Minimize decluttering

Thursday, November 13, 2025

有大自然,有众生

保护自然就是拯救自己
Protecting nature is saving ourselves

<南京照相馆>,观后感

<南京照相馆>,观后感

实事没得改,历史骗不了。。

经历被日军侵略的国家,财富,矿产,宝库被掠夺,家园被亏灭,人民被断头颅在街头展示,苦民被无人性的对待。。

大马也被日军侵略,经历
恐怖的3年8个月,即使日军最终
投降,战后,因之前掠夺的财富,
宝藏,矿产,让他们容易的就东山再起,还被我们的前首相青睐,还提倡【向东学习】不知paiseh,下白,两个字怎样写?

反日情绪,在我们的家庭,大马社会没那么的严重,2005年,我也进了日企,感受到反日情绪的,是我和日本经理出差到北京,我们要踏的士到目的地,经理和我说好目的地,就闭嘴不言了,坐进的士里,司机第一句话问我,就是:‘’你带鬼头子来北京。。‘’,我顿时无言以对,。。。

新一代的人,可能很羡慕,总盼外国月亮比较圆,若我也不例外,旅行到法国,荷兰,德国等等,这都是之前的战争爆发者,殖民地的统治者,看见外国多么的美丽,但可否想过,这华丽的建筑美景,何尝不是由殖民地的矿产宝库来买单?

川,毕业🎓

川,祝你毕业🎓快乐,在这新的前程中,愿你前程似锦,越多挑战,你越强大,战胜每个问题,活出精彩的自己,希望你如愿成就美好的梦想,多多的得智慧启发,全程光明,健康,富足,幸福!

Chuan, first of all, I wish you a happy graduation! In this new journey, may your future be bright, may you become stronger with each challenge, overcome every problem, and live a wonderful life. I hope you achieve your beautiful dreams, gain much wisdom and inspiration, and have a bright, healthy, prosperous, and happy life!

Sunday, November 2, 2025

we only have one Earth 🌎

we only have one Earth 🌎 
我们只有一个地球🌍

佛教走向世界

佛教走向世界,
盼世界和平
愿各族和谐。。

我的快乐时代

回顾,我们的韩江中六学生时代

一副不曾打过的鼓。。

Looking back, our Han Chiang Form Sixth student days

A drum that has never been played.

UM Physics graduate

回顾,马大物理系毕业🎓期间

物理宇宙学实验室

授一次无观众的课,过过瘾

Looking back, UM Physics graduate ceremony..

Physics Cosmology Laboratory

Teaching a class without an audience is a real treat..haha

霹雳皇宫,皇家童军颁奖礼

回顾,在霹雳皇宫,皇家童军颁奖礼, 我父母也有来观礼,之后和父母拍摄的照片不见了 😭

Looking back at the King Scout Awards Ceremony at the Perak Palace,my parents did attend, but I lost my photo that took with parents in this ceremony 😭